It’s that person from high school, right?
It’s that person that you’ll never meet in this population of 60,000 students, right?
You hold onto that person–despite them being miles and miles away–for your freshman year, because, well, you believe your relationship is the exception.
Let’s face it, long distance sucks.
Yes, it’s hard to let go of your beloved homecoming king, but trust me, you’ll be better for it. College is a wide funnel full of new experiences and friendships to be made. Immediate relationships that travel from high school, however, can be crippling to your first year of school.
Either you’re both enjoying freshman year and significant amount of cheating will take place…or you choose not to go out and spread your social butterfly wings. Not every freshman in college is sleeping around every night , but there are hundreds of people waiting to meet you and thousands of Skol bottles waiting to be opened. (Disclaimer: If you think you’re a freshman who knows how to drink, chances are you’re wrong. College is a completely new level of partying; imagine transitioning from Aaron Carter’s “house party of the year” to Project X.) Unless you and your distance significant other have developed a level of trust that weighs deeper than your silver promise rings, you’ll get suspicious. It’s hard to trust someone when you only see him or her once a month, but are immersed in the excessive college drinking culture a couple nights a week.
The common fatality of a long distance relationship is continuing to date the high school senior. The reason this one almost never works is truthfully because you’re in two different worlds, let alone two different places. While you’re experiencing new, exciting things, you’re significant other is still in a prison formally known as high school. You will have a difficult time explaining your newfound freedom and they just won’t understand where you’re coming from. And how can they? You’re in a new realm comprised of sex, drugs, alcohol, freedom, individuality and drum roll, please….no curfew. High school long distance just creates tension, jealousy and disconnect – three things no relationship should have.
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I realize that long distance relationships aren’t always epic failures. I’ve witnessed a success story very close to home; my brother and his girlfriend have been dating for five years from Boston to Gainesville. Cheers to them, but learn from those older than you and at least take a break. If your far away soulmate is still there at the end of freshman year, maybe you have something. But you owe it to yourself to have fun and discover who you are without being emotionally drained from long distance love.
In some ways, relationships can be like anchors. They have the power to pull you down fast until you hit the bottom and can ruining your ability to create connections and have a healthy social life. It’s hard to move on from people from your past, but it’s definitely worse to mess up your present.
Oh, and to my long distance boyfriend, don’t worry about this article, because you know we’re the exception.
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